4 Great Tips: Change Your Focus To Change Your Life

What we have to do is come back to and focus on our mindset.

When we focus on our mindset, then everything else can change.

But if we just try to passively go through our day and say, okay, I hope it’s gonna get better, it doesn’t get better. Because you still have the same mindset and you just keep reverting back to the same negative mindset loop.

If you’re having stress, anxiety, the feeling of being overwhelmed in your life; whether it’s from pain, (emotional pain, or physical pain), you have the ability to get past it.

It doesn’t mean that tough things don’t happen. They happen all the time.  It’s unfortunate, life can be hard, right?

Tough things happen to us, but it doesn’t mean we have to have them destroy us.

And it doesn’t mean that we can’t adapt and overcome and be flexible and figure out how to get past them.

So let’s look at the mindset and why your mindset makes such a big difference.

Your mindset is a way of thinking or a set of beliefs that determines our outlook, your attitude and our actions.

So, it starts with your thinking. It starts with your thoughts and beliefs about yourself.

I talk about having a …

Positive, Proactive Mindset.

It’s not just being passive to the world around you.

You are actively deciding to have a positive mindset.

Now is that always easy? Like when you’re stressed and if somebody says, “just have a positive attitude”.  Does that work? NOT usually.

Now, a ProActive Mindset is approaching life with a constructive positive attitude.

It’s not just Mark saying, “be happy. Everything will be rosy and sunshine”. And you know, because Mark said, be happy. Okay, I’ll be happy. Well, that’s just a bunch of bull, right?

Some people would say, that is be “Toxically Positive” or that it’s “Toxic Positivity”.

That’s like looking at the garden and saying, “there are no weeds”. So that would be like looking at my garden and there are weeds waist high, but I’m gonna ignore ’em ’cause Mark said everything’s okay.

That would just choke out my garden, right? 

Having a positive, constructive attitude is looking at the garden and saying, “yes, there are weeds. Now what am I gonna do about it?”

And say, “okay, there are weeds in my life. What am I gonna do about it? How can I plan to get rid of those weeds to make my garden?”

And the same thing goes for life, but it’s having a constructive, positive mindset. Because most people, if they’re in a negative mindset loop, are so beyond listening to anything from anyone, they’re not ready to hear this. And they think that you’re being toxically positive.

But the goal is to have a constructive, positive attitude. It’s living life on purpose by taking actions on your goals.  To Take actions on your goals, you have to HAVE goals to take action on, right? If you don’t have any goals, that’s living life passively.

What are your goals? Do you have any specific goals?

Well, I wanna lose weight. Well, how much weight do you wanna lose? When do you wanna lose it by? I just wanna lose weight.

I want to go on a vacation next year.

Well, where do you want to go? “Well, I don’t know, probably the Caribbean”. When are you going to go? “oh, I don’t know, probably in the spring.”

What happens when somebody says, “oh, I’d really love to go to the Caribbean.” And they just say that generally, and at the end of the year they’re saying the same thing and they’re saying, “oh, I really wish I went to the Caribbean.  I think I, I’d like to go to Caribbean next year.” And they don’t do it.

And you know, when they finally go to the Caribbean.

It’s when you say, “enough is enough. I’m doing it.”  I’m buying the flights right now for April ..th of 2024. And before you know it, you’re in the Caribbean. But it was only because they decided to do it. You set a goal and you acted on it. But until you set specific goals, it doesn’t happen.

Next is having gratitude and appreciation for what you have, who you love, and who loves you.

This is again, the Positive, ProActive Mindset.

Very often we don’t have appreciation and gratitude for the things that we have. We only see the negative aspects of what we’re going through. Rather than see the things I can be greateful for…

look at this great friend I have.

Look at this wonderful spouse I have.

Look at these awesome children I have.

Look at the job I have.

Do you know how many people don’t have a job?

How many people wake up and they can’t walk or they don’t have enough food to eat.

It’s being grateful for the things that we have.

Because many times, you don’t realize what you have because you’re too worried about all of the things going on in your life. Having gratitude and a positive mindset allows your mind to focus on the present.

Now being present in the moment is an entire separate principle that we could discuss but I’ll just touch on it here.

Being present, for myself,  is one of the primary reasons I got past my chronic pain more than anything else. And it was the aha moment that I was not in the present.

When they say somebody is present, it’s because they have presence. They’re right there in front of you. They’re nowhere else but listening to you. They’re in the moment.

Have you ever listened to somebody who’s NOT listening to you or had a conversation with them and they’re everywhere but with you.

Because usually they’re stressed out and they’re worried about what they have to do after they’re with you. What happened to them before they saw you. And they’re anywhere but the present.

Their presence is being stolen by the past and the future. Past traumas and future worries.

For me, my past trauma was what? …My accident. I had a reason for all this pain that I had. And so my mind was stuck 27 years ago when my accident was.

But I finally gave my self permission to what?… Let go of the accident. It doesn’t mean that it didn’t happen. It happened but now I use it for strength. But I let go of the accident. And once I did that, that was like my body saying, my mind saying, “okay, that happened to me, but now I’m getting past it. ’cause otherwise you’re always stuck where that traumatic event was.

And it can be other traumatic events like divorce or trauma in your family or whatever it is.

Sometimes we attach ourselves, unknowingly to a past event.  “Oh, mark, it’s all been different since my knee replacement. I’ve never been the same since.”  And they blame it on the knee replacement, even though the knee replacement went well but their pain is still present. But they’ve, in their mind, said it’s always been that fateful day. “It’s never been the same since.” And they’re latched onto that.

Their mind is stuck back at that traumatic event. And then they’re worried about a future that may have chronic pain or stress or anxiety or overwhelm.

But then we can bring ourselves back to the present by letting go of the past and setting goals for the future.

The 4 Tips For a Positive ProActive Mindset:

1.  Having a constructive positive attitude towards your life

2.  Living Life on purpose by taking action on your goals

3.  Being Greatful for what you have,who. you love & who loves you

4.  Being Present in the moment

I hope this information helped you out!

Have a wonderful Week!

Be Positive, Be Motivated, Be Focused and Be Well,

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